Look, we’ve all been there. You’re on a date, and everything is going fine—until they mispronounce “quinoa” or admit they’ve never seen a single episode of The Office. Suddenly, your brain does this weird thing where you go from heart eyes to side eyes in approximately 0.2 seconds. You’ve caught a case of the ick.

But hold up. According to a recent New York Post article, catching the ick might actually mean you’re the problem. (Cue dramatic gasp.) That’s right, some experts now think that the ick could be a sign of—you guessed it—narcissism. Apparently, when you get grossed out by someone for doing something totally normal, it might indicate that your own perfectionism and self-centered tendencies are rearing their judgy little heads.

Am I saying that every time you mentally eject someone from your life because they chew with their mouth open, you’re a narcissist? Not necessarily. But it does make you think, right? Are we just being too picky? Or maybe we’ve become so wrapped up in curating the perfect partner aesthetic that we forget actual humans are, you know, human.

So, What Now? Find Your ‘Yum’ Instead!

If the ick has you questioning your own sanity (or your ego size), maybe it’s time to switch things up. Instead of focusing on minor flaws that send your inner diva spiraling, why not focus on finding the yum? You know, that gut feeling that makes you smile instead of cringe.

At OBC, we’re all about the yum. Whether you’re looking for someone who shares your love of experimental pizza toppings or a fellow Office enthusiast who can quote every episode, our community is full of real, interesting people. Someone out there is your yum—you just have to give them a chance.

So ditch the ick, embrace the yum, and come find your people at OBC. Because life’s too short to be grossed out by someone’s weird sock habits.

Ready to meet your yum? Sign up for OBC today!