If you’ve been feeling like you’re shouting into the abyss when you send messages to other singles on the OBC Dating app (or any other app!) it might be time to try something new. A dating expert over at CNN is sharing some tips for attracting daters online — including the recommendation that you stop taking bathroom selfies (both private and public bathrooms). She also gave some ideas for “message baiting” that can help spark interest in a potential match.

Check out the video over at CNN!