Welcome to the modern dating world, where ghosting is a hobby, breadcrumbing is practically a sport, and we’re all just trying to figure out if “wyd?” at 2 a.m. is love or a WiFi glitch.

Let’s be real—some of the stuff we now consider “normal” dating behavior is actually just straight-up toxic. Like, red-flag-on-fire toxic. But because everyone’s doing it, we all just shrug and swipe on. Enough of that. Let’s call out the nonsense, shall we? Via BuzzFeed:

1. Ghosting like it’s a civic duty
Listen, disappearing without a trace isn’t mysterious or edgy—it’s cowardly. If you can order sushi through an app, you can send a “Hey, I’m not feeling this” text. Let’s normalize communication, not vanishing acts. Casper is not your dating role model.

2. Playing the “I’m busy” game for three weeks straight
You’re not booked and busy, babe—you’re emotionally unavailable and bad at texting. If someone wants to talk to you, they will. And if they’re treating you like a backup singer in their own romantic solo? Exit stage left.

3. “Talking” for months with no label in sight
We love a slow burn… but not an eternal preheat. If someone’s stringing you along with vibes and vague compliments but no real commitment, congrats—you’re in a situationship. Spoiler alert: they’re not confused, they’re just keeping their options open. We’re all about the no-titles vibes, but if you’re looking for something more, make it clear!

4. Weaponized “honesty” that’s just cruelty in disguise
“Just being honest” doesn’t give anyone a free pass to be rude. If someone says something mean and calls it brutal honesty? That’s not maturity, that’s just a red flag wrapped in a fake compliment.

5. Constantly keeping you guessing
Are we flirting? Are we friends? Are you just bored? If you’re stuck decoding emoji patterns like it’s the Da Vinci Code, it’s time to log off. Healthy connections don’t feel like emotional scavenger hunts.

 Dating doesn’t have to be a parade of mind games and unhealed trauma. At OBC, we’re all about keeping it real, respectful, and fun. No ghosting. No breadcrumbing. We prioritize honesty, humor, and maybe even some freaky Friday night plans. 

Ready to ditch the toxic and date like an adult?

Join OBC today and meet someone who texts back and knows what they want. Revolutionary, we know.