Let’s get one thing straight:
Some of us were not born for the camera. We weren’t out here serving looks in preschool. We didn’t peak in our prom photos. We don’t know our angles—we barely know which side our part goes on. But if you’re on a dating site, you’re going to need a photo. Because no one’s swiping right on a blank silhouette like it’s a mystery box on “Let’s Make a Deal.”

So if the thought of taking a profile pic gives you emotional hives, breathe easy. Here’s how to look like a functional human being online, even if you loathe every pixel of the process:

1. Don’t Look at the Camera Like It’s a Police Lineup

It’s a photo, not your mugshot. You don’t have to stare into the void like you’re being accused of something. Look near the camera. Glance off to the side. Think about cheese. Anything that keeps you from doing the deer-in-headlights look.

 2. Neutral Face? No Thanks.

A totally blank face in your dating pic makes people think you’re either (a) in witness protection, or (b) disassociating mid-scroll. Smile. Half-smile. Smirk like you just got away with something minor but mischievous. Humans like expressions. It helps us figure out if you’re going to ghost us or recommend a weird podcast.

3. Let Someone Else Take the Picture

No more grainy mirror selfies where your phone is blocking 70% of your face. Ask a friend. Or bribe a roommate with snacks. Or use a self-timer and stack your phone on a couple cookbooks like a grown adult. Just… no more up-the-nose, in-the-car, seatbelt selfies. We beg you.

4. Add a Prop (aka a Distraction)

Don’t like being the center of attention? Cool. Hold a coffee. Hug a dog. Lean on a bike. People will think, “Wow, what a fun and active person!” instead of “Why is this person gripping the armrest like they’re about to be ejected into space?”

 5. Go Outside (You’re Hot in Natural Light)

Bad lighting is the root cause of 87% of unattractive dating photos.* Step into a patch of soft daylight, and suddenly you’re glowing like a romcom lead who just realized their best friend is their soulmate.

*Okay, fake stat. But still true.

 Bottom Line:

You don’t need to look like a supermodel. You just need to look like you, on a good day, after maybe one (1) cup of coffee and a decent playlist. It’s not about perfection—it’s about looking alive, approachable, and like someone who won’t text exclusively in memes. (Unless you’re both into that. No judgment.)

So go forth. Take that picture. And remember: awkward people find love every day. Some of them even find it on OBC