We all know that friend from high school who overly uses filters on her IG page, making us wonder if she really thinks she’s fooling anyone. When it comes to sharing photos on your social media page, though, it might not be a big deal. In your online dating profile though, is it straight up LYING?

Via NBC:

Beauty filters are a scourge of online dating, [dating coach Eric] Resnick said. They’re also very popular. Everyone uses them: women, men, 20-somethings who don’t remember a world without Instagram and 50-year-olds who’d prefer to hide signs of aging. Yet, Resnick advised his client to lose the edits, which visibly smudged the skin around her eyes, neck and mouth. “If you want to have a real connection, you don’t lie,” he told me.

On a practical level, that reasoning makes sense. A visibly filtered face or retouched body could turn potential matches off. Looking different than your photo is not the best way to start an in-person date.