We’ve got dating apps, voice notes, situationships, and a million ways to stay “in touch.” So why does dating still feel lonely, confusing, and weirdly exhausting?

That’s what researchers are calling the intimacy crisis. Not a lack of sex. Not even a lack of dates. A lack of real closeness.

We’re connecting constantly, but rarely feeling connected.

Dating Has Never Been Easier and Intimacy Has Never Felt Harder

Casual dating today is optimized for speed. Swipe fast. Keep it light. Don’t catch feelings. Don’t ask for too much. Always keep your options open.

And sure, that can be fun for a while. But over time, it starts to feel empty.

You can go on dates, hook up, text someone every day, and still feel totally replaceable. Because when everything stays surface-level, there’s no safety. No depth. No “oh, you actually see me” energy.

That’s the crisis. Not too much freedom. Too little closeness.

Intimacy Isn’t Just About Relationships

Let’s clear this up. Intimacy does not mean rushing into commitment or slapping a label on things. Intimacy is about emotional presence.

It’s feeling comfortable saying what you want.
It’s being able to ask a question without feeling needy.
It’s having a connection that doesn’t disappear the second things get real.

Casual dating works best when intimacy skills are strong. Without them, it turns into ghosting, mixed signals, and everyone pretending they’re chill while secretly spiraling.

Why We Keep Avoiding It

A lot of us were never taught how to do intimacy. Not emotional honesty. Not boundaries. Not how to talk about desire without making it awkward.

So instead, we perform. We stay vague. We keep things “fun” even when we want more clarity. We avoid vulnerability because it feels risky.

But avoiding intimacy doesn’t actually protect us. It just keeps us disconnected.

The Plot Twist: Intimacy Is a Skill

Good news. Intimacy isn’t something you’re either good at or bad at. It’s a skill you can practice.

It starts with self-awareness. Then communication. Then choosing spaces where depth is normal, not embarrassing.

That’s what OBC is built for.

Not forced vulnerability. Not pressure to define everything. Just real conversations, honest curiosity, and people who are actually trying to connect, even while dating casually.

Ready to End the Intimacy Crisis?

If you’re tired of surface-level dating, confusing signals, and connections that fizzle the moment things get real, OBC might be your people.

Join OBC to:

• Have better conversations, on and off dates

• Learn how to communicate without overthinking

• Build connection without losing your independence

• Date casually without feeling disconnected

You don’t need to date harder.
You need to date with more intention.

Join OBC and help end the intimacy crisis one real connection at a time.