Hey singles, let’s talk about a little something making the rounds on TikTok and in the darker corners of Reddit: the “gold digger test.”  You know the drill—some guy invites you out, then conveniently “forgets” his wallet just to see if you’ll cover the bill. Surprise! You just got tested, girl.

And we’re here to say loud and clear: stop. the. madness.

According to a recent New York Post article, this so-called “test” isn’t just petty—it’s toxic. Like, glitter-in-your-bed-sheets toxic. Relationship experts say it’s a surefire way to kill trust before the appetizer even hits the table.

What Is the Gold Digger Test?

It’s when someone sets up a fake scenario—like ditching the dinner check or lying about their job—to see if you’re “in it for the money.” Spoiler alert: if you have to test someone’s motives on date one, you’re not ready to date.

As one woman told the Post, her guy handed her the check and said she “passed the test.” Uh, congratulations? What is this—The Bachelor Hunger Games edition?

Why It’s Actually a Massive Self-Own

Here’s what pulling that move really says:

• “I don’t trust women.”

• “I watch too much Andrew Tate.”

• “I still think pretending to be broke is romantic.”

Seriously, if you’re so scarred by past dates that you need to run psychological operations at brunch, maybe take a break and journal it out, king.

Red Flag Parade

Experts in the article are saying what we’ve all been thinking: it’s manipulative, dishonest, and—let’s be real—kind of pathetic. A test isn’t a cute personality quiz. It’s a huge red flag dressed up in Axe body spray.

So What Should You Do Instead?

If you’re worried about money, say so. If you’ve been burned before, talk about it. If you’re not sure someone’s into you for the right reasons, maybe ask…instead of launching a trap like you’re on some weird reality show called To Catch a Gold Digger.

Relationships—casual or serious—run on honesty, not games. So here’s your new rule:

If you have to “test” them, you probably shouldn’t be dating them.

At OBC, we’re here for real talk, real chemistry, and real fun—not fake wallets and gotcha moments. Ditch the drama and come vibe with singles who know how to be upfront and unbothered.

Whether you’re dating to flirt, have fun, or just see what happens (no tests required), we’ve got your back.

Join OBC today. We’re not here to test you—we’re here to tempt you.