If your pre-date ritual feels more like prepping for a corporate board meeting than getting ready for a fun night out, you’re doing it all wrong.
Recently, Newsweek highlighted an LA psychologist who dropped the ultimate piece of dating advice he wishes every single person would hear. His hot take? The absolute biggest dating mistake you're making actually happens before you even walk through the bar doors. We are so heavily conditioned to hunt for "The One" that we end up treating a casual Thursday night date like a high-stakes job interview.
At OBC, we have a radically different philosophy: that being single isn't some boring waiting room for a relationship... it’s the main event!
Here is how we’re flipping the script and taking the pressure off:
Lower the Stakes, Raise the Fun
Stop agonizing over whether your date has a five-year plan or if they check every single box on your fantasy list. Who cares? Are they cute? Do they make you laugh? Let go of the heavy expectations. When you stop treating dates like a grueling audition and bring genuine curiosity instead, you actually give yourself permission to just enjoy the moment.
Celebrate Your Single Era
Society loves to act like being unattached is a problem to be solved. Please. Being single
means you have the ultimate freedom. It’s the time to go out, stay out late, flirt shamelessly, and figure out what you actually want. You get to be radically authentic and grounded without having to compromise or play games.
Hookups, Hangouts, and Good Vibes Only
Sometimes you're looking for a deep emotional connection, and sometimes you just want someone hot to grab late-night pizza with after making out in a cab. Both are incredibly valid! Making friends, enjoying casual hookups, and exploring your desires is all part of the fun. You don't need a ring on your finger to have a deeply satisfying, vibrant social life.
The doctor has spoken: it's time to chill out your nervous system, ditch the burnout, and bring the fun back. Stop putting so much pressure on finding your soulmate, and start focusing on finding a really great time tonight.
Ready to stop overthinking and start mingling? Leave the pressure at the door and join a community that actually gets it. Sign up for OBC today to meet local singles who just want to have fun, hook up, and enjoy the ride. No job interviews required.