Here at OBC we support all types of safe, consensual dating – whether you’re into one night stands, booty calls, friends with benefits, committed relationships or somewhere in between.

But we know that sometimes one person has a different expectation of the relationship, and making sure you’re on the same page is crucial. Here are some tips from experts on setting the record straight with your booty call, from Xtra Magazine:

Your desire for sex without relationships is in your domain. You have a right to that desire, and you don’t have to feel bad about it or try to change it. You also have a responsibility to manage your desire for casual sex in a thoughtful and honest way. 

Likewise, your potential partners have a right to want a serious relationship, and they have a responsibility to manage their expectations and respect the limits of others who might want something different. 

It’s not all on you to make your potential partners feel good about themselves, and it’s not all on them to give you an easy, no-strings-attached sexual experience. You and your partners are cooking in this cauldron together, and you both need to communicate your wants and hopes, desires and limits. 

Be upfront and let a potential partner know early on what you are looking for—i.e. casual sex versus deep romance. Clear, kind and honest communication are essential tools for navigating tricky romantic situations.