Premature ejaculation is a sensitive topic that many men seriously worry about – so much so that they’ve created an electronic taint patch to prevent it, and apparently have also created “numbing agents” with the same goal: longer erections. But as they report over at GQ, the issue isn’t SHORT sex for most women, but BAD sex. Men should be concentrating at being better at pleasing their partners, not lasting longer. Via GQ

But a growing wave of brands are cashing in on the fear people have that they aren’t lasting long enough in bed—that long sex means good sex. In service of that (mistaken, I assure you) belief, companies like Hims and Roman have created over-the-counter products to help people last longer: sprays or wipes that simply numb your dick a bit.

 Is lasting a long time the main ingredient to good sex? It is not. In fact, when GQ asked how long they’d like their partner to penetrate them (this doesn’t include foreplay), most people said about 5-10 minutes.  Your dick, even if it stays hard for hours, is not a good way to give your partner an orgasm. If you’re looking to up your sex game, start with communicating with your partner. You will likely talk about oral sex, or using lube, or trying a sex toy.

We couldn’t agree more. It’s not about the size of the prize OR the time of the sublime (??) but how you USE your tools! So start learning!