When it comes to long term relationships, it’s not all about sex – we agree with that statement! However, when you’re hoping to be in it for the long haul, sexual compatibility is crucial… just ask these people over on BuzzFeed whose relationships fizzled because they couldn’t make it work in the bedroom. 

“My (now ex) partner of two years first described herself as very active in the bedroom — it turns out that was never really true. I’m not sure if she didn’t know herself or thought she needed to present herself a certain way, but she wasn’t actually interested in sex more than once a week (at most, and often not even once a month).”

“I’m asexual. He thought he could ‘fix me.’ Spoiler alert: he couldn’t.”

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“He wanted to have sex all the time, and I just didn’t want to. I would give in twice a week, then it turned into once a week, and he kept the pressure on every day, which made me want to do it less and less. The pressure was so high that I started not wanting to see him. “

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“He wanted to start and drive. Never did he heat up the engine before driving. Sometimes, it was fun and interesting, but he was usually drunk. He also had premature ejaculation, so he was fine and done in 3-5 minutes and never worried if I was fine or satisfied.”

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“I knew after the first time my wife and I had sex. Her response was to go ahead because I know you want to, and at this point, I was already in love with her, so I was just happy that she allowed me to have her when, in reality, it was a big red flag.”