Casual dating is the way, the truth, and the light — in a world where the divorce rate is over 50%, we find it pretty crazy that barely legal couples are tying the knot before they can legally get a drink.

And yet, in many place, getting married young is still the norm. If you’re considering getting hitched early, we urge you to read these stories from Reddit – and remember: #MarriageCanWait!

“Got married at 18, one week after high school graduation. Divorced at 21 after my third deployment when I learned she slept with my former stepdad. They’ve been married for 15 years now.”

“I’d turned 20 less than a week before, and he’d just turned 19. We stayed married for five miserable years and had two kids before I asked for a divorce. It truly was misery the entire time. We’ve been divorced for over 10 years, and there’s an ocean between us. We have a great sibling-like relationship now.”

“Married at 22. I was too immature to make such a decision. I woke up one morning and looked at my sleeping wife and said to myself, Who is this person, and how and why am I even here? We divorced, and I’m happily remarried.”

“I got married at 18, decided to leave at 19, then found out I was pregnant, so I stayed. I tried to make it work, had another kid at 23, then asked for a divorce at 25. It was finalized in 1992. I have not remarried because that one was enough for 10 lifetimes.”

“I was less than three months from my 25th birthday when I got married. I was too young emotionally and didn’t listen to my gut or pay attention to the red flags. We divorced 16 years later. It should have been sooner, but I had to grow up and realize the issues and then get the nerve to leave. That was seven years ago, and I love myself so much more than back then. Still single, and I’m not settling for less than I’m worth.”

“We met at 21, had a daughter at 23, got married at 24, and divorced at 29. I had two more kids and am currently remarried. My ex-husband and I were both very young and not ready for what we did. After years together, we grew apart. I changed and he didn’t. That was part of the problem. He is a 21-year-old in the body of a 37-year-old.”

“We got together at 18, and we lasted for 10 years. He wanted to live a single life, and I gave it to him.”