Apparently, having endless dating options is not the flex we were promised.

A recent study covered by HuffPost UK has confirmed what many of us already suspected while staring blankly at a dating app at 11.47pm. Too many choices do not make dating better. They make it messier, louder, and far more exhausting. Especially for men, who, according to the research, struggle more when faced with a sea of potential partners.

The problem is not a lack of options. It is the belief that there must always be something better one swipe away. More choice leads to more second-guessing. More second-guessing leads to less commitment. Less commitment leads to ghosting, flakiness, and that charming modern classic where someone says they are not ready for a relationship while actively dating six people.

Men, in particular, seem to spiral when confronted with abundance. Instead of feeling empowered, they freeze. They worry about picking wrong. They imagine an ideal that probably does not exist. They keep one foot out the door just in case. The result is dating paralysis with a side of regret.

This is how you end up treating human beings like menu items. You enjoy the starter, hesitate over the main, and spend the whole meal wondering if you should have ordered something else. No one is satisfied. Everyone is mildly stressed. Romance quietly slips out the back.

The study suggests that fewer, more intentional choices actually make people happier. Not shocking. Connection thrives when attention is focused, not scattered across fifteen chats and three almost-plans that will never happen.

Which brings us to the real question. Why are we still pretending the struggle bus is fun?

If you are tired of chaotic dating, endless analysis, and vibes that go nowhere, there is another way. Join OBC to get off the struggle bus and join the fun. Less noise, hotter dates, better stories, and actual dates that do not feel like a cognitive endurance test.

Dating should feel exciting again. Not like a part-time job with no benefits.