So we just read this gem of an article from Rolling Stone—yes, that Rolling Stone—about how Gen Z men are so paranoid about being filmed on dates that many are flat-out opting out of dating altogether. And you know what? We get it. Because this is wild. And yes, it’s gross.

Picture this: you’re finally on a real-life date (not just swiping or ghosting). You look across the table, you feel that spark, maybe you lean in. And… the dude whips out his phone. Starts filming. Maybe you’re mid-laugh. Maybe you’re mid-bite of your burrito. Either way: your moment just turned into content.

According to Rolling Stone, the reason this is happening isn’t because people want to share genuine memories. Nope. It’s because for some, the date is less about connection and more about capturing a clip for clout. “People are using others’ dating fails to gain clout — and it’s having a chilling effect on young mens’ love lives.”

In other words: your live, actual human experience? Backdrop. His camera? The star. Let’s be clear—this is gross. You didn’t sign up to be part of someone’s highlight reel, you signed up for a connection—or at least a fun night out. Privacy? Gone. That lens isn’t here for you—it’s here for his followers. It’s performative, it’s predatory, and it kills the vibe faster than a bad pickup line. You can’t lean in, you can’t be yourself, you can’t just be—because you’re suddenly performing.

Our rule? Simple: put the phone away, or walk. If you spot the camera coming out, ask “Is this a date or a TikTok audition?” If the phone stays on the table in filming mode, take the hint and peace out. You came to connect, not to cameo in someone’s feed. Because you are the main character—not their content.

And if you want dates that are real, hot, and actually fun (not filmed), that’s where OBC comes in. We’re all about real connections with singles who are here for flirty chemistry, not free promotional material. No cameras. No clout-chasing. No audience. Just your date—and maybe some sparks. Ready to meet someone who’s into you (not your thumbnail)?

Join OBC and find singles who’ll keep their phones in their pockets and their focus exactly where it belongs—on you.