We all have a “type,” right? The tall ones, the BBWs, the funny ones, the ones who look like they might own a record player and read Murakami for fun. We make our dating apps do the heavy lifting by filtering, swiping, and categorizing people like we’re building our own personal Spotify playlist of potential partners. And then one day, you go on a date with someone who is absolutely not your type—and your brain short-circuits.

Maybe it’s the guy who showed up in cargo shorts but ended up quoting poetry over tacos. Maybe it’s the woman who told you she’s “more of a cat person” but spent the evening laughing so hard you forgot you even had a dog. Or maybe it’s the person who didn’t fit your mental picture at all, but something about the chemistry was undeniable. Suddenly you’re realizing your “type” might have been less about attraction and more about habit.

The truth is, sticking to a type is safe. It’s like ordering the same drink at every bar because you know it won’t disappoint you. But dating someone unexpected—someone outside your usual checklist—is where the real surprises happen. It’s where you realize that chemistry isn’t a formula, it’s a spark you can’t predict.

When your “not my type” date blows your mind, it’s not because they’re the perfect match. It’s because they wake something up in you. They remind you that dating isn’t supposed to be predictable. It’s supposed to be weird and fun and full of moments that make you rethink what you thought you knew about yourself.

So, go out with the person who seems “too quiet.” Say yes to the one who doesn’t fit your usual mold. Worst-case scenario, you get a good story out of it. Best case? You walk away grinning, realizing your type might just be someone who makes you feel alive.

Ready to meet someone who surprises you? Join OBC and see what happens when you ditch the checklist and keep it easy.