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As you reenter the dating world and start sparking up sexual relationships, you may be diving into SEXTING again! Sending nude sexts can be a fun, steamy way to remind your booty call what you’d like to share with them once you take your dating from the virtual world to the real world. However, an unsolicited dick pic is A) totally gross, B) borderline harassment, and C) a great way to end up getting your penis shared with several other women, if she’s feeling vindictive.<\/p>\n
Furthermore, as one expert says,<\/p>\n
\n\n\u201cBeing turned on purely by visual stimuli is more commonly effective for cisgendered men, but cisgendered women tend to be more responsive to a story or descriptor ? especially those specific to them ? because it activates them emotionally, which is a huge component of female arousal.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n
\nShe added, \u201cSpeaking from a heteronormative perspective, I believe dick pics are never the best option for getting her fired up.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n
\nBelow, women share the sexts they\u2019d rather receive than another unrequested photo of someone\u2019s dong. Dick-pic-happy men out there, please bookmark this.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n
We love these spicy ideas from HuffPo<\/a> to use WORDS to spark the imagination of your partner without the need to set your Brett Favre yourself.<\/p>\n
\n\nTalk about the, er, effect your partner has on you.<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n
\n\u201c\u2018I was just dreaming about you and now my pants are much tighter all of a sudden.\u2019<\/strong>\u00a0You\u2019re describing to your partner how you are turning them on and what you are experiencing.\u201d ?\u00a0Heather McPherson, a couple\u2019s therapist and sex therapist in Austin and Denver<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n
\nDescribe a hot moment you shared.<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n
\n\u201cSend your partner a text reminiscing about one of your favorite sexual memories together. Something like,\u00a0\u2018Remember that trip we took to Mexico? And what we did out on the balcony of that one hotel? I can\u2019t stop thinking about that.\u2019<\/strong>\u00a0Referring back to past experiences is great because you don\u2019t have to come up with something creative in the moment. You\u2019re just drawing from your own memories! Plus, they\u2019re good memories that should get both of you fired up. You could even do something simpler, like,\u00a0\u2018I\u2019ve been thinking about last Wednesday night all day long today.\u2019<\/strong>\u201d ?\u00a0Vanessa Marin<\/a>, a sex therapist and online course creator<\/em><\/p>\n
\nGive a command.<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n
\n\u201cWhen I get a sext from a dude, I\u2019m turned off by phrases that start with \u2018I want you\u2019 or \u2018I need you.\u2019 I don\u2019t want neediness. I want a command that asks for a response, something that\u2019s not too aggressive off the top, that invites my own imagination to engage: Maybe\u00a0\u2018Wear a skirt\u2019<\/strong>\u00a0or\u00a0\u2018Tell me what you think about when you touch yourself.\u2019<\/strong>\u00a0And when the message is that my pleasure is the focus right off the top, bam, wet.\u201d ?\u00a0Bryde MacLean, co-host and co-producer of the podcast \u201cTurn Me On<\/a>\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n
\nTell your partner what you\u2019re going to do and how you\u2019re going to do it.<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n
\n\u201cHere\u2019s the thing about sexting: suggestive is hot, obvious is not. It\u2019s easy to send a dick pic or to throw the F-word around. That\u2019s exactly what makes it a whole lot less sexy than creating a scene that requires the receiver to fill in all the blanks. Say something like,\u00a0\u2018I can\u2019t stop thinking about your hands. About the way my body feels when they\u2019re on me. About the things they do to me. About how electric my skin feels when they glide across it. Tonight I\u2019m in your hands. Completely.\u2019<\/strong>\u201d\u00a0<\/strong>?\u00a0J<\/a>enny Block<\/a>, writer and author of \u201cBe That Unicorn: Find Your Magic, Live Your Truth, and Share Your Shine\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n
\nTake a mundane moment at work and make it sexy.<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n
\n\u201cSay, \u2018I\u2019m stuck in this meeting and all I can think about is you bending me over the kitchen table later.\u2019<\/strong>\u00a0Sexting is basically a digital form of foreplay. You\u2019re letting your partner know that you\u2019re thinking about having sex with them while you\u2019re at your day job. This text will give your partner something to think about for the rest of the day. And when you get home, you\u2019ll probably get bent over the kitchen table.\u201d ?\u00a0Gigi Engle<\/a>, certified sex coach, sexologist, and author of\u00a0\u201cAll The F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life\u201d<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n
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