{"id":25669,"date":"2020-08-11T08:41:04","date_gmt":"2020-08-11T15:41:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/?p=25669"},"modified":"2020-08-10T20:48:29","modified_gmt":"2020-08-11T03:48:29","slug":"how-to-learn-what-your-fantasy-is","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/how-to-learn-what-your-fantasy-is\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Learn What Your Fantasy Is"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-25671\" src=\"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/photo-1589682240398-1051c6f33274-1024x1024.jpeg\" alt=\"\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/photo-1589682240398-1051c6f33274-1024x1024.jpeg 1024w, https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/photo-1589682240398-1051c6f33274-150x150.jpeg 150w, https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/photo-1589682240398-1051c6f33274-300x300.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/photo-1589682240398-1051c6f33274-768x768.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/photo-1589682240398-1051c6f33274.jpeg 1100w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re stuck at home, cut off from your normal routine of hookups from OBC, you might be wondering what you can do in this time of lockdown to keep your sexual muscles toned and strong. A good way to spend this time? Learn what your deepest fantasy is!<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.huffpost.com\/entry\/how-figure-out-sexual-fantasy_l_5f2b46c8c5b6e96a22ad9776?guccounter=1\">Via HuffPo:<\/a><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>\u201cKeep in mind, fantasies come in all different stripes,\u201d New York City sex therapist\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.iankerner.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-ylk=\"subsec:paragraph;itc:0;cpos:3;pos:1;elm:context_link\" data-rapid_p=\"3\" data-v9y=\"1\">Ian Kerner<\/a>, the author of\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/She-Comes-First-Thinking-Pleasuring\/dp\/0060538260?tag=thehuffingtop-20\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-ylk=\"subsec:paragraph;itc:0;cpos:3;pos:2;elm:context_link\" data-rapid_p=\"4\" data-v9y=\"1\">\u201cShe Comes First,\u201d<\/a>\u00a0told HuffPost. \u201cSome of my patients have kinky fantasies, some have sensual fantasies, some fantasize about sex with others, some fantasize about sexual situations with their current partners.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>Common fantasies include\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.glamour.com\/story\/6-totally-normal-sex-fantasies\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-ylk=\"subsec:paragraph;itc:0;cpos:5;pos:1;elm:context_link\" data-rapid_p=\"5\" data-v9y=\"1\">role-playing<\/a>,\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.huffpost.com\/entry\/bdsm-beginners-what-you-need-to-know_l_5cba2bb6e4b032e7ceb834c5\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-ylk=\"subsec:paragraph;g:e6b35e21-d5b8-3762-8daa-fa5ecc19090c;itc:0;cpos:5;pos:2;elm:context_link\" data-rapid_p=\"6\" data-v9y=\"1\">power dynamics<\/a>\u00a0like dominance and submission,\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.huffpost.com\/entry\/common-sexual-fantasies_n_5ae20d7ee4b02baed1b80971\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-ylk=\"subsec:paragraph;g:3f1da6ca-ca81-32c8-a7d8-4c5206041f8f;itc:0;cpos:5;pos:3;elm:context_link\" data-rapid_p=\"7\" data-v9y=\"1\">threesomes<\/a>\u00a0or group sex,\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/the-myths-sex\/202003\/why-are-rape-fantasies-so-common\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-ylk=\"subsec:paragraph;itc:0;cpos:5;pos:4;elm:context_link\" data-rapid_p=\"8\" data-v9y=\"1\">\u201cforced\u201d sex<\/a>,\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.glamour.com\/story\/6-totally-normal-sex-fantasies\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-ylk=\"subsec:paragraph;itc:0;cpos:5;pos:5;elm:context_link\" data-rapid_p=\"9\" data-v9y=\"1\">voyeurism<\/a>\u00a0and (if you identify as straight)\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.huffpost.com\/entry\/common-sexual-fantasies_n_5ae20d7ee4b02baed1b80971\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-ylk=\"subsec:paragraph;g:3f1da6ca-ca81-32c8-a7d8-4c5206041f8f;itc:0;cpos:5;pos:6;elm:context_link\" data-rapid_p=\"10\" data-v9y=\"1\">having sex with someone of the same gender<\/a>\u00a0?\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.glamour.com\/story\/6-totally-normal-sex-fantasies\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-ylk=\"subsec:paragraph;itc:0;cpos:5;pos:7;elm:context_link\" data-rapid_p=\"11\" data-v9y=\"1\">just to name a few<\/a>.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>We love this idea! Why not explore some sides of your sexuality you&#8217;ve never delved into before? So what IS a fantasy? And how do you identify. your own?<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>\u201cA fantasy is first and foremost a \u2018thought,\u2019 which means it doesn\u2019t have to become an actual thing you do, and most of my patients don\u2019t actually want their fantasies to come true,\u201d Kerner said. \u201cThey just want to enjoy them in the comfort of their own erotic imagination or share them with a partner.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>If you want to tap into your fantasies, start by thinking back to your early sex-related memories. Ask yourself what you thought sex was at that time and what about it seemed appealing to you.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>Your actual experiences with sex might also contain clues about what turns you on,\u201d sex therapist\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/vmtherapy.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-ylk=\"subsec:paragraph;itc:0;cpos:11;pos:1;elm:context_link\" data-rapid_p=\"12\" data-v9y=\"1\">Vanessa Marin<\/a>, creator of the online course\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/urldefense.com\/v3\/__https:\/\/vmtherapy.com\/increase-sex-drive\/__;!!Op6eflyXZCqGR5I!U80zwFtv0zKtWBQ9t09MG-pPvKjD9VdoPpStm5zmpyNTwOJhCfDLOoXJAZwyS1QayeZYkfQ$\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-ylk=\"subsec:paragraph;itc:0;cpos:11;pos:2;elm:context_link\" data-rapid_p=\"13\" data-v9y=\"1\">Rediscovering Desire<\/a>, wrote\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bustle.com\/articles\/78227-what-are-my-sexual-fantasies-anyway-how-to-figure-out-what-turns-you-on\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" data-ylk=\"subsec:paragraph;itc:0;cpos:11;pos:3;elm:context_link\" data-rapid_p=\"14\" data-v9y=\"1\">for Bustle<\/a>. \u201cWhat are your top five sexual experiences? Is there anything that most of them have in common? Or is there anything that really stands out?\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Great tips &#8211; we&#8217;re all about this idea to find out what really turns us on. Our recommendation? Take the steps from these therapists, and then see if you can find a local single on OBC to chat about these fantasies with. You might find out someone just around the corner has the same sexy steamy thoughts you do!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<!--themify_builder_content-->\n<div id=\"themify_builder_content-25669\" data-postid=\"25669\" class=\"themify_builder_content themify_builder_content-25669 themify_builder tf_clear\">\n    <\/div>\n<!--\/themify_builder_content-->\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If you&#8217;re stuck at home, cut off from your normal routine of hookups from OBC, you might be wondering what you can do in this time of lockdown to keep your sexual muscles toned and strong. A good way to spend this time? 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