{"id":30853,"date":"2025-04-18T06:23:39","date_gmt":"2025-04-18T13:23:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/?p=30853"},"modified":"2026-03-11T10:43:28","modified_gmt":"2026-03-11T17:43:28","slug":"how-much-should-you-text-or-message-before-meeting-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/how-much-should-you-text-or-message-before-meeting-up\/","title":{"rendered":"How Much Should You Text or Message Before Meeting Up?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Dating today looks nothing like dating in the 50s (or even the early 2000s!). It’s a whirlwind of swiping, ghosting, texting, double-texting, triple-analyzing, and finally \u2014 maybe \u2014 meeting in person, if Mercury is in a good mood.<\/p>\n

So let\u2019s talk about the texting phase<\/em>. You know, that mysterious no man\u2019s land between \u201cHey :)\u201d and \u201cLet’s grab a drink tonight.\u201d How much texting is too much<\/em> before you meet up IRL? Should you get to know them first, or save the juicy stuff for the date? Should you text like pen pals in 1842 or like you\u2019re live-streaming your thoughts into their brain?<\/p>\n

According to a recent New York Post<\/strong> article,<\/a> the answer is somewhere in between. Experts suggest you shouldn\u2019t be texting non-stop for weeks without plans to meet. Why? Because texting chemistry doesn\u2019t always translate into real-world sparks. And sometimes, people seem like witty rom-com characters over text… but give strong \u201cleft on read\u201d energy in person.<\/p>\n

One dating coach quoted in the article warns against getting stuck in the textationship<\/em>. That\u2019s where you message endlessly, share your trauma, debate favorite pizza toppings, and then never actually meet \u2014 congratulations, you\u2019re basically long-distance pen pals with someone 3 miles away.<\/p>\n

So what\u2019s the magic formula?<\/p>\n

~ Enough texting to establish you’re both real humans and vaguely sane, but…<\/strong><\/p>\n

~ Not so much texting that you\u2019ve mentally married each other by day four.<\/strong><\/p>\n

A few light, flirty convos? Great. A phone call to confirm they don’t breathe like Darth Vader? Even better. But after a handful of exchanges, don\u2019t be afraid to say: \u201cHey, you seem cool. Want to grab a drink and see if we vibe in 3D?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

Because real connection happens face-to-face. Or, at the very least, over tacos and a mutual love of true crime podcasts.<\/p>\n

And if you\u2019re tired of dead-end DMs or dating apps that feel like part-time jobs, try OBC<\/strong><\/a>\u2014 a casual, no-pressure dating site where you can actually meet people who want to meet<\/em> people. Like, in person. IRL. So go ahead. Send that \u201chey\u201d and make it mean something!<\/p> <\/div>\n<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Dating today looks nothing like dating in the 50s (or even the early 2000s!). It’s a whirlwind of swiping, ghosting, texting, double-texting, triple-analyzing, and finally \u2014 maybe \u2014 meeting in person, if Mercury is in a good mood. So let\u2019s talk about the texting phase. You know, that mysterious no man\u2019s land between \u201cHey :)\u201d […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":9,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-30853","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-advice","has-post-title","has-post-date","has-post-category","has-post-tag","has-post-comment","has-post-author",""],"builder_content":"\"Texting

Texting before meeting up <\/h3>\n

Dating today looks nothing like dating in the 50s (or even the early 2000s!). It's a whirlwind of swiping, ghosting, texting, double-texting, triple-analyzing, and finally \u2014 maybe \u2014 meeting in person, if Mercury is in a good mood.<\/p>

So let\u2019s talk about the texting phase<\/em>. You know, that mysterious no man\u2019s land between \u201cHey :)\u201d and \u201cLet's grab a drink tonight.\u201d How much texting is too much<\/em> before you meet up IRL? Should you get to know them first, or save the juicy stuff for the date? Should you text like pen pals in 1842 or like you\u2019re live-streaming your thoughts into their brain?<\/p>

According to a recent New York Post<\/strong> article,<\/a> the answer is somewhere in between. Experts suggest you shouldn\u2019t be texting non-stop for weeks without plans to meet. Why? Because texting chemistry doesn\u2019t always translate into real-world sparks. And sometimes, people seem like witty rom-com characters over text... but give strong \u201cleft on read\u201d energy in person.<\/p>

One dating coach quoted in the article warns against getting stuck in the textationship<\/em>. That\u2019s where you message endlessly, share your trauma, debate favorite pizza toppings, and then never actually meet \u2014 congratulations, you\u2019re basically long-distance pen pals with someone 3 miles away.<\/p>

So what\u2019s the magic formula?<\/p>

~ Enough texting to establish you're both real humans and vaguely sane, but...<\/strong><\/p>

~ Not so much texting that you\u2019ve mentally married each other by day four.<\/strong><\/p>

A few light, flirty convos? Great. A phone call to confirm they don't breathe like Darth Vader? Even better. But after a handful of exchanges, don\u2019t be afraid to say: \u201cHey, you seem cool. Want to grab a drink and see if we vibe in 3D?\u201d<\/em><\/p>

Because real connection happens face-to-face. Or, at the very least, over tacos and a mutual love of true crime podcasts.<\/p>

And if you\u2019re tired of dead-end DMs or dating apps that feel like part-time jobs, try OBC<\/strong><\/a>\u2014 a casual, no-pressure dating site where you can actually meet people who want to meet<\/em> people. Like, in person. IRL. So go ahead. Send that \u201chey\u201d and make it mean something!<\/p>","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30853"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/9"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=30853"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30853\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":31816,"href":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/30853\/revisions\/31816"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=30853"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=30853"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=30853"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}