{"id":31263,"date":"2025-08-11T14:34:37","date_gmt":"2025-08-11T21:34:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/?p=31263"},"modified":"2025-08-11T14:37:58","modified_gmt":"2025-08-11T21:37:58","slug":"about-to-type-hey-stop-right-now","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/about-to-type-hey-stop-right-now\/","title":{"rendered":"About To Type &#8220;Hey&#8221;? Stop. Right. Now."},"content":{"rendered":"<!--themify_builder_content-->\n<div id=\"themify_builder_content-31263\" data-postid=\"31263\" class=\"themify_builder_content themify_builder_content-31263 themify_builder tf_clear\">\n    \t\t\t\t<div  data-lazy=\"1\" class=\"module_row themify_builder_row tb_ugew741 tb_first tf_w\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"row_inner col_align_top tb_col_count_1 tf_box tf_rel\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div  data-lazy=\"1\" class=\"module_column tb-column col-full tb_1s6y741 first\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<!-- module image -->\n<div  class=\"module module-image tb_1o1a996 image-top   tf_mw\" data-lazy=\"1\">\n        <div class=\"image-wrap tf_rel tf_mw\">\n\t\t    <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1000\" height=\"667\" src=\"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/online-dating-message.jpg\" class=\"wp-post-image wp-image-29822\" title=\"online dating message\" alt=\"online dating message\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/online-dating-message.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/online-dating-message-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/online-dating-message-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/>\t\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t<!-- \/image-wrap -->\n    \n    \t<\/div>\n<!-- \/module image --><!-- module text -->\n<div  class=\"module module-text tb_b1dl256   \" data-lazy=\"1\">\n\t    <div  class=\"tb_text_wrap\">\n\t\t<p data-start=\"204\" data-end=\"585\">The WORST thing you can say when you match with someone on a dating app isn\u2019t that you\u2019re cheesy\u2014it\u2019s that you\u2019re lazy. According to <a href=\"https:\/\/time.com\/7308834\/what-to-say-dating-app-messages\/\">Time,<\/a> common offenders like \u201chey,\u201d \u201chi\u201d (or the dreaded \u201csup?\u201d) scream that someone sent the same copy-paste line to everyone else. And typos or spelling mistakes? Instant signal you didn\u2019t bother trying.<\/p>\n<h5 data-start=\"587\" data-end=\"634\">Smart, Sexy, and Actually Worth a Reply<\/h5>\n<p data-start=\"635\" data-end=\"893\">The antidote? A message that\u2019s personal, playful, and not a snooze. Hily\u2019s dating experts say standout openers made people feel relieved, like someone finally put in effort\u2014and that\u2019s how conversations go somewhere real. <span class=\"\" data-state=\"closed\"><span class=\"ms-1 inline-flex max-w-full items-center relative top-[-0.094rem] animate-[show_150ms_ease-in]\"><a class=\"flex h-4.5 overflow-hidden rounded-xl px-2 text-[9px] font-medium text-token-text-secondary! bg-[#F4F4F4]! dark:bg-[#303030]! transition-colors duration-150 ease-in-out\" href=\"https:\/\/time.com\/7308834\/what-to-say-dating-app-messages\/?utm_source=chatgpt.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span class=\"relative start-0 bottom-0 flex h-full w-full items-center\"><span class=\"flex h-4 w-full items-center justify-between overflow-hidden\"><span class=\"max-w-full grow truncate overflow-hidden text-center\">TIME<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p data-start=\"895\" data-end=\"966\">Here\u2019s how to text like you\u2019re as interesting as your pics say you are:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li data-start=\"895\" data-end=\"966\"><strong>Reference their profile detail:<\/strong> Shows you\u2019re paying attention\u2014not just swiping.<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"895\" data-end=\"966\"><strong>Add humor or a light tease:<\/strong> Laughing together is the easiest way to break the ice.<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"895\" data-end=\"966\"><strong>Challenge the vibe:<\/strong> A playful jab like \u201cYou may be the only one brave enough to match me\u2026\u201d keeps it fun.<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"895\" data-end=\"966\"><strong>Cut the chase:<\/strong> Compliment, joke, or flirt\u2014just skip the wall of text and move to actual convo.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p data-start=\"1437\" data-end=\"1734\">Word count doesn\u2019t capture the whole message. Time\u2019s Gen Z report calls out <strong data-start=\"1513\" data-end=\"1540\">\u201cdigital body language,&#8221; <\/strong>and that how you communicate online matters almost as much as IRL energy. Things like speed of reply, punctuation, and consistency say more than a \u201cu up?\u201d at 2 a.m.<\/p>\n<p data-start=\"1736\" data-end=\"1985\">Match that with presence. Openers are more powerful when you follow them up promptly, stay engaged, and show you can <em data-start=\"1853\" data-end=\"1878\">actually follow through<\/em>\u2014even if it&#8217;s forgetting to respond during life, showing up later says you\u2019re engaged the next time around.<\/p>\n<h2 data-start=\"1992\" data-end=\"2023\">What <em data-start=\"2011\" data-end=\"2016\">Not<\/em> to Say<\/h2>\n<p data-start=\"2025\" data-end=\"2038\">Best to skip:<\/p>\n<ul data-start=\"2039\" data-end=\"2315\">\n<li data-start=\"2039\" data-end=\"2116\">\n<p data-start=\"2041\" data-end=\"2116\">\u201cYou\u2019re hot\u201d \u2014 Uncreative and an instant turn-off. Try harder!<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"2117\" data-end=\"2183\">\n<p data-start=\"2119\" data-end=\"2183\">Overly personal or sexual lines \u2014 Creepy before it\u2019s consensual.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li data-start=\"2184\" data-end=\"2315\">\n<p data-start=\"2186\" data-end=\"2315\">Generic one-liners \u2014 Sparking a convo with a question or a specific joke beats \u201cHey\u201d every time.\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p data-start=\"2352\" data-end=\"2379\">Ready to go beyond talking?<\/p>\n<ul data-start=\"2380\" data-end=\"2550\">\n<li data-start=\"2380\" data-end=\"2550\">\n<p data-start=\"2382\" data-end=\"2550\">If you hit a vibe fast, don\u2019t drag it\u2014drop, \u201cLet\u2019s grab a drink Friday?\u201d and skip the messaging treadmill. Flow it into real life\u2013 OBC is about action, not small talk.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p data-start=\"2920\" data-end=\"2986\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\"><strong data-start=\"2920\" data-end=\"2938\">Join OBC today<\/strong><\/a>\u2014because good messages deserve a good, fun follow-up.<\/p>    <\/div>\n<\/div>\n<!-- \/module text -->\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n<!--\/themify_builder_content-->","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The WORST thing you can say when you match with someone on a dating app isn\u2019t that you\u2019re cheesy\u2014it\u2019s that you\u2019re lazy. According to Time, common offenders like \u201chey,\u201d \u201chi\u201d (or the dreaded \u201csup?\u201d) scream that someone sent the same copy-paste line to everyone else. And typos or spelling mistakes? Instant signal you didn\u2019t bother [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":9,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-31263","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-dating-and-sex","has-post-title","has-post-date","has-post-category","has-post-tag","has-post-comment","has-post-author",""],"builder_content":"<img src=\"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/online-dating-message.jpg\" title=\"online dating message\" alt=\"online dating message\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/online-dating-message.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/online-dating-message-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/online-dating-message-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/>\n<p data-start=\"204\" data-end=\"585\">The WORST thing you can say when you match with someone on a dating app isn\u2019t that you\u2019re cheesy\u2014it\u2019s that you\u2019re lazy. According to <a href=\"https:\/\/time.com\/7308834\/what-to-say-dating-app-messages\/\">Time,<\/a> common offenders like \u201chey,\u201d \u201chi\u201d (or the dreaded \u201csup?\u201d) scream that someone sent the same copy-paste line to everyone else. And typos or spelling mistakes? Instant signal you didn\u2019t bother trying.<\/p> <h5 data-start=\"587\" data-end=\"634\">Smart, Sexy, and Actually Worth a Reply<\/h5> <p data-start=\"635\" data-end=\"893\">The antidote? A message that\u2019s personal, playful, and not a snooze. Hily\u2019s dating experts say standout openers made people feel relieved, like someone finally put in effort\u2014and that\u2019s how conversations go somewhere real. <a href=\"https:\/\/time.com\/7308834\/what-to-say-dating-app-messages\/?utm_source=chatgpt.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">TIME<\/a><\/p> <p data-start=\"895\" data-end=\"966\">Here\u2019s how to text like you\u2019re as interesting as your pics say you are:<\/p> <ul> <li data-start=\"895\" data-end=\"966\"><strong>Reference their profile detail:<\/strong> Shows you\u2019re paying attention\u2014not just swiping.<\/li> <li data-start=\"895\" data-end=\"966\"><strong>Add humor or a light tease:<\/strong> Laughing together is the easiest way to break the ice.<\/li> <li data-start=\"895\" data-end=\"966\"><strong>Challenge the vibe:<\/strong> A playful jab like \u201cYou may be the only one brave enough to match me\u2026\u201d keeps it fun.<\/li> <li data-start=\"895\" data-end=\"966\"><strong>Cut the chase:<\/strong> Compliment, joke, or flirt\u2014just skip the wall of text and move to actual convo.<\/li> <\/ul> <p data-start=\"1437\" data-end=\"1734\">Word count doesn\u2019t capture the whole message. Time\u2019s Gen Z report calls out <strong data-start=\"1513\" data-end=\"1540\">\u201cdigital body language,\" <\/strong>and that how you communicate online matters almost as much as IRL energy. Things like speed of reply, punctuation, and consistency say more than a \u201cu up?\u201d at 2 a.m.<\/p> <p data-start=\"1736\" data-end=\"1985\">Match that with presence. Openers are more powerful when you follow them up promptly, stay engaged, and show you can <em data-start=\"1853\" data-end=\"1878\">actually follow through<\/em>\u2014even if it's forgetting to respond during life, showing up later says you\u2019re engaged the next time around.<\/p> <h2 data-start=\"1992\" data-end=\"2023\">What <em data-start=\"2011\" data-end=\"2016\">Not<\/em> to Say<\/h2> <p data-start=\"2025\" data-end=\"2038\">Best to skip:<\/p> <ul data-start=\"2039\" data-end=\"2315\"> <li data-start=\"2039\" data-end=\"2116\"> <p data-start=\"2041\" data-end=\"2116\">\u201cYou\u2019re hot\u201d \u2014 Uncreative and an instant turn-off. Try harder!<\/p> <\/li> <li data-start=\"2117\" data-end=\"2183\"> <p data-start=\"2119\" data-end=\"2183\">Overly personal or sexual lines \u2014 Creepy before it\u2019s consensual.<\/p> <\/li> <li data-start=\"2184\" data-end=\"2315\"> <p data-start=\"2186\" data-end=\"2315\">Generic one-liners \u2014 Sparking a convo with a question or a specific joke beats \u201cHey\u201d every time.\u00a0<\/p> <\/li> <\/ul> <p data-start=\"2352\" data-end=\"2379\">Ready to go beyond talking?<\/p> <ul data-start=\"2380\" data-end=\"2550\"> <li data-start=\"2380\" data-end=\"2550\"> <p data-start=\"2382\" data-end=\"2550\">If you hit a vibe fast, don\u2019t drag it\u2014drop, \u201cLet\u2019s grab a drink Friday?\u201d and skip the messaging treadmill. Flow it into real life\u2013 OBC is about action, not small talk.<\/p> <\/li> <\/ul> <p data-start=\"2920\" data-end=\"2986\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\"><strong data-start=\"2920\" data-end=\"2938\">Join OBC today<\/strong><\/a>\u2014because good messages deserve a good, fun follow-up.<\/p>","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31263"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/9"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=31263"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31263\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":31268,"href":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31263\/revisions\/31268"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=31263"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=31263"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=31263"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}