{"id":31969,"date":"2026-04-29T09:18:15","date_gmt":"2026-04-29T16:18:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/?p=31969"},"modified":"2026-04-29T09:18:16","modified_gmt":"2026-04-29T16:18:16","slug":"when-it-comes-to-dating-rules-were-teamalex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.onlinebootycall.com\/blog\/when-it-comes-to-dating-rules-were-teamalex\/","title":{"rendered":"When it Comes to Dating “Rules,” We’re #TeamAlex"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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There are two kinds of people in this world: people who follow dating \u201crules,\u201d and people who have actually had a good first date.<\/p>

This week, Alex Cooper managed to stir up the internet by saying something that somehow still feels controversial: if it feels right, do it.<\/p>

The conversation kicked off when she pushed back on TikTok\u2019s growing obsession with rigid first date rules, especially the idea that kissing is off-limits. You\u2019ve seen it. The timelines, the strategies, the carefully calculated pacing meant to signal that you are desirable but not too available, interested but not too interested.<\/p>

Alex\u2019s take is refreshingly simple. If you want to kiss them, kiss them. If you want to sleep with them, that is your call. You do not need to deny yourself a good time just to prove that you are serious.<\/p>

What makes this hit is how far dating has drifted from being about actual connection. It has started to feel like performance. People are out here trying to optimize themselves instead of just showing up. Every move is filtered through what it might mean instead of how it actually feels.<\/p>

Chemistry does not follow a schedule. It does not care about a rule someone made up for engagement. When it is there, it is there, and ignoring it rarely leads to anything better.<\/p>

That said, this is not about throwing caution out the window. It is about being grounded in your own boundaries and making choices that feel good to you. Everything should be mutual, enthusiastic, and safe. That part is not negotiable.<\/p>

What Alex is really calling out is the pressure to perform a version of yourself that feels less fun, less open, and less real in the name of being \u201chigh value.\u201d It is exhausting, and it is not actually helping anyone find better connections.<\/p>

At OBC,<\/a> we are firmly Team Alex. Not because every date needs to go somewhere physical, but because every date should feel honest.<\/p>

If you are someone who likes to take things slow, great. If you are someone who leans into the moment, also great. The only thing that does not work is pretending to be someone else because you think it will lead to a better outcome.<\/p>

Do what feels right, stay safe, and make sure everyone is on the same page. The rest is noise.<\/p>

Check out the full ep below!<\/p>

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