The New York Post just dropped an article that had us nodding along the whole way through. An adult film star gave some refreshingly real advice to men who worry about their size — and spoiler alert: it’s not about measuring up, it’s about confidence.

Confidence > Size

Her take was simple but powerful: most women don’t care nearly as much about size as men think they do. What does matter is how you carry yourself, how attentive you are, and whether you know how to make a connection.

That’s huge for dating. We’ve all seen guys psych themselves out, worrying if they’re “enough” in bed. But here’s the truth — chemistry isn’t one-size-fits-all. What works in the bedroom (or kitchen, or shower, if you’re adventurous) has way more to do with confidence, communication, and creativity than it does with a ruler.

Work With What You’ve Got

If you’re stressing about size, you’re missing the bigger picture. Women (and partners in general) want someone who makes them feel sexy, wanted, and appreciated. That means knowing how to kiss, how to touch, how to pay attention — and yeah, how to laugh and keep things fun.

Confidence is about owning what you’ve got and using it well. And honestly, that’s way sexier than being insecure.

Why We Love Her Message

We’ve talked about this before on OBC: dating is supposed to be fun, flirty, and pressure-free. That means ditching the hang-ups and leaning into what makes you feel good. So props to this adult-film star for using her platform to remind guys that size doesn’t define their game.

Because the truth is, a confident guy who knows how to please is always hotter than someone caught up in self-doubt.

At OnlineBootyCall, we’re all about helping singles meet, mingle, and keep it casual without the pressure. It’s the perfect place to practice confidence, learn what works for you, and connect with people who are looking for the same thing you are — fun, flirty encounters with zero judgment. Join OBC today and discover that confidence is the real sexy.