In a recent post about the dating environment feeling “off,” Cosmopolitan used two words to describe why many singles aren’t into the scene right now: burnout and disposability. Singles are feeling like the use of apps to meet and connect makes it too easy to be ghosted. While we’re totally all for casual dating (as the #1 casual dating site on the web, we sure should be), casual doesn’t mean rude or inconsiderate. As Cosmo says,

“I have noticed that ‘casual dating’ is often used as an excuse for no effort, no accountability, poor communication, no empathy and inconsiderate behaviours.”

So, how can you be polite, thoughtful, and courteous, even in the casual dating sphere?

1. Be respectful: Treat anyone you’re connecting with online with respect and kindness. Don’t make rude or offensive comments and never engage in hate speech or discrimination, and yes – thought OBC is a casual dating site, it doesn’t excuse uninvited sexually explicit talk off the bat.
2. Listen actively: When you are communicating with someone online or off, make sure you are actively listening to what they are saying. Ask questions and show interest in their hobbies and interests. Simply talking AT others isn’t an attractive trait at all!
3. Be honest: Honesty is especially critical in casual dating. Be upfront about your intentions and what you are looking for in a relationship or lack thereof!
4. Don’t ghost: If you are not interested in continuing dating, hooking up, or even seeing someone, be honest and let them know. Ghosting someone (i.e., abruptly ceasing communication without explanation) is disrespectful.

So – if you wanna bring all those singles back into the game who are feeling the burnout, it’s time to be NICE, be HONEST, and don’t ghost!