The internet is currently having a collective meltdown over a viral clip of A$AP Rocky during his Don’t Be Dumb tour.

While onstage performing for a massive crowd, the rapper pointed out a few fans and flagrantly shouted: “Thank god y’all didn’t know me when I was single, I would’ve f***ed the s***out of you if you was pretty.” He then added that a few other women in the front row were “fine as f***k.”

Predictably, Rihanna’s loyal fan base (the Navy) immediately went to war in the comments. Critics are calling his onstage confessions “disrespectful,” “humiliating,” and “peculiar behavior” for a man who shares three kids with one of the most powerful women on earth.

But let’s play devil’s advocate for a hot second.

Obviously, screaming to a stadium of gorgeous women that you would’ve slept with them is a high-risk move (and you better pray your partner has the ultimate secure attachment style before you try it). But behind the internet’s outrage lies a weird, lingering puritanical fear: we are still absolutely terrified of acknowledging that our partners had a sex life, a past, and desire before they met us.

If we were all a little more open about our pasts and our desires, wouldn’t we all be a whole lot happier? Here is why pretending your partner was a virgin before they met you is killing the vibe:

1. Your Past Is What Made You Good in Bed

Let’s be real: nobody actually wants to date a fully grown adult who has zero experience, zero game, and never explored their sexuality. The “single life” era is where people figure out what they like, what they don’t like, and how to please a partner. A$AP Rocky acknowledging he was a wild single guy isn’t a diss to Rihanna; it’s just facts.

2. Desire Doesn’t Just Die When You’re in a Relationship

Monogamy means choosing to be with one person; it doesn’t mean your eyes suddenly stop working. Acknowledging that other people are attractive, or joking about how wild you used to be, doesn’t mean you love your partner any less. In fact, being secure enough to joke about your past single days takes a lot of pressure off a relationship.

3. Suppressing Your Desires Is Exhausting

When people try to act entirely pure, innocent, and scrubbed of any sexual edge, it breeds resentment. Pretending you don’t have a past or that you don’t still possess a healthy sex drive just makes dating boring. Embracing your inner freak—even if you’ve chosen to settle down—keeps life fun.

The Golden Rule: As long as your partner is completely in on the joke, secure in the relationship, and okay with you being a bit rowdy, who cares what the internet thinks?

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