There’s something about May that makes people collectively realize they’ve been operating on winter settings for far too long.

The sun comes out. Patios reopen. Group chats suddenly fill with “beach soon?” texts. And somewhere deep inside, a tiny voice whispers: maybe it’s time to stop entertaining people who reply “haha” every nine business days.

Welcome to the May Dating Reset.

Summer is around the corner, which means now is the perfect time for a little romantic spring cleaning — both online and IRL.

First things first: your dating profile.

If your photos still include a blurry holiday party pic from 2023, a heavily filtered car selfie, or a group shot where nobody can identify you, it’s time. Update the roster. Add photos where you actually look like yourself and appear to enjoy human life. Revolutionary concept, we know.

Then there’s the bio.

Delete anything that sounds copied from every dating app profile ever created:

• “Fluent in sarcasm”
• “Looking for my partner in crime”
• “Just ask”

No. We will not “just ask.” Give people something to work with! Summer dating energy should feel playful, specific, and alive.

And while we’re here? Clean out the chats.

You know the ones:

• The person who only resurfaces at 11:42 PM
• The eternal “we should grab drinks sometime” texter
• The almost-relationship that somehow never fully became anything

Archive. Unmatch. Release into the universe.

The IRL reset matters too.

This is the season to start saying yes to things again. Go outside. Accept invitations. Host the happy hour. Go on the walk date. Flirt a little. Re-enter society. Nobody meets the love of their life doomscrolling horizontally in bed at midnight. (Probably.)

The best part about May dating is that it feels hopeful without the pressure of New Year’s resolutions or Valentine’s Day theatrics. It’s less “reinvent yourself” and more “maybe stop settling for weird energy.”

Because summer dating should feel fun. Light. Slightly chaotic, maybe. But exciting.

So consider this your official sign to refresh the profile, clean out the dead-end situationships, and start fresh.

And if you’re not already on OBC? Join today. Better people, better conversations, and a much stronger chance of entering summer with an actual date instead of another dusty talking stage.