Pop star Lily Allen just said post-divorce dating has been “bitterly disappointing,” calling it punishing, humiliating, and just… not it. (via The Cut) And honestly? Same, girl.

Re-entering the dating scene after a breakup can feel like being dropped into a reality show you didn’t audition for. Everyone’s swiping, ghosting, or “just seeing where it goes” (translation: nowhere). You start to wonder if romance has officially gone extinct.

But here’s the thing: dating doesn’t have to be miserable. It doesn’t even have to be serious.

The pressure is the problem

After a breakup, everyone tells you to “get back out there.” But “out there” now feels like a full-time job — except the benefits suck and HR never calls back.
Lily said she thought she’d done the self-work and was ready to date, but still found it exhausting. That’s because modern dating often comes with sky-high expectations. If it’s not leading to a ring, it’s “a waste of time.” Spoiler: it’s not.

Let’s bring fun back

At OBC, we think rebound dating should actually be fun. Imagine meeting someone for drinks, flirting a little, maybe sharing fries, then going home happy — not spiraling.

No timelines, no pressure, no “are we exclusive yet?” panic. Just meeting cool singles who want the same thing you do: connection, chemistry, and a good laugh.

The OBC difference

• Honest vibes: Everyone’s clear about what they want — from casual hangs to flirty adventures.

• No dating fatigue: You’re not here to impress; you’re here to enjoy.

• People who get it: Most of us have been through some stuff. We’re not pretending to be perfect.

So, Lily (and anyone else feeling done with disappointment):

Don’t quit dating — just quit the pressure. If you’ve done the self-work and cried to Adele, now it’s time to flirt again — casually, confidently, and without the side of shame. Join OBC, where divorced singles go to actually enjoy themselves again.