If you’ve been online dating on the new OBC app or other dating app and are feeling burnt out or just plain over it, you might be wondering what you’re doing wrong.

Well, right here on the blog we share a ton of tips to help you be successful in dating, whether online or in the real world – but it’s also a great idea to get some advice from the people out there getting laid themselves. Over at the Philadelphia Inquirer, they asked Philly singles who use dating apps to share their top advice – and we couldn’t have said them better ourselves.

Check out the tips below, then download the new OBC app and put that time-tested advice into action!

Chill out 

“Don’t take it so seriously. Look at them as a person, don’t look at it as a person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with. I was just having fun with it.”— Jennifer Gyecsek

Cool down

“If you’re feeling burnt out, take a break. The idea of dating is that it’s fun and it’s kind of a fact-finding mission to see what’s out there.” — Cara Graeff

Slow down

“You can’t take yourself too seriously and need to give people a chance. We’re always looking for something better. We’re so much different form our parent’s generation because we always have access to so many different partners.” — Beth Algeo

(Don’t) give up

“It felt like when I was no longer looking is when I found it. When you kind of give up or feel like you’re ready to take a break, that’s when you tend to find somebody, maybe because you’re not trying so hard.” — Robin Craren